Masculinity

The world has changed dramatically, and will continue to do so. Especially for men, this poses certain challenges. We can no longer rely on traditional societal roles to guide our lives. In the essence, this is an opportunity. We have the chance to ask ourselves: what kind of man do I wish to be? A transformation is possible, if only one has the courage to change.

Masculinity is due for change. Academic work on the societal necessity of this is increasingly present. But what about the stories of men who are renewing themselves and their masculinity? What challenges do they face? And how have they embraced a new form of masculinity? 

Weg met mannelijkheid tells the personal story of this transformation. Joey Velberg takes you to moments that have been defining for his development and shows how themes such as identity, sexuality, work and family have played a role in this. Join him on a journey through this candid book and discover, just like Joey, how you can be more human as a man. So that you can take your place in today’s society.

My name is Joey Velberg and I work as a transformative masculinity coach. In my work, I guide men, in the broadest sense of the word, who want to embrace the challenges of our time and start a personal transformation process. In ‘Man & Zacht’ I engage in conversation with various people to explore the theme of masculinity even further.

Men* enter my coaching practice with questions like: ‘Why am I not making progress in my career?’ ‘How come I am not able to build relationships?’ and ‘Things were going well for so long, why can’t I get back on my feet after a relatively minor setback?’. Sooner or later, these conversations almost always lead to themes such as social expectations, socialization, family roles and relationship with your self. In other words: masculinity. 

More than we often realize, masculinity plays a major role in what we think, feel and who we are. Many men want to make a positive change, but just don’t have the tools to do it yet. In my practice, I support men who want to use the challenges of our time to start a personal transformation process. So that you can create a form of masculinity that is good for you and the world around you. And you can take your place in today’s society.

My expertise in combination with my own life experiences, has allowed me to specialize in the following themes:
– Personal leadership
– Connecting body and mind
– Emotion regulation
– Core values
– Communication

This trajectory can be completed entirely online, allowing you to explore your masculinity at your own pace and in your own time. 

*When I say ‘men’, I mean all men: cisgender and transgender, straight and queer, and all colors. 

Gender is a construct. Therefore, so is masculinity. And yet few things in life seem so rigid and ubiquitous as masculinity. The number of boys and men* openly struggling with their gender identity is rising. During this session, I use my experience as writer, coach and facilitator to make sure everybody feels safe to share their thoughts and experiences. In doing so, I strive to create a meaningful environment for candor conversations. Feel welcome to join and get one step closer towards renewing your masculinity.

This training includes:
– Brave space
– (de)Constructing masculinity
– Emotion regulation
– Consent
– Communication tools for your ongoing journey

When: On request
Where: Online / On location
Participants : Between 8 – 12 people

*When I say ‘men’, I mean all men: cisgender and transgender, straight and queer, and all colors. 

In today’s society, a proper conversation on masculinity is indispensable. And in order to have such a conversation, you need to have a moderator who not only knows what he is talking about, but also enables others to engage in the conversation.

My style as a chairperson can be described as both professional as well as personal. The stories I share are based on facts and life experience, and always current. And my contribution is of course tailored to the event.

Things I focus on:
– Social safety
– Mutual respect
– Dialogue